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Of all the things you need to survive as a professional cook, one thing stands out from all others.
And it isn’t great chopping skills, “asbestos” hands or a weirdly sensitive palate.
What you really need is a superhuman tolerance of repetition.
The obvious assumption is that this repetition refers to the job itself. The endless chopping of vegetables, for example, or having to cook the same dishes night after night.
This is true of course, but it’s not what I’m talking about.
What I’m really talking about is the repetition of jokes.
It’s hard to explain, but the vast majority of chefs I worked with just loved repeating the same jokes over and over (and over) again.
And they never tired of it.
When I was a stagiaire at “The Restaurant” in London, I could constantly hear a tall Taiwanese Sous Chef and (not so tall) Australian Chef de Partie shouting “CAMPARI” to each other in a voice that fell somewhere between the Queen and the Mad Hatter.
I spent over a year at that restaurant and those two never got bored of it.
At one of my last jobs as a line cook, in Stockholm, my Head Chef never tired of adding the Vengaboys’ We Like to Party (The Vengabus!) into the usual heavy metal Spotify playlist the crew would listen to every day.
Before his days off he would even make sure the restaurant sound system was logged in to his own account so he could add it from his own bedroom.
And, of course, no shift was complete without someone, somewhere in the kitchen, reciting something from that fucking Gordon Ramsey Boiling Point documentary.
If you can’t get your head around this, then professional cooking isn’t for you.
This willingness to constantly repeat yourself is required in the way cooks communicate as well. If you walk into a professional kitchen, what you will hear, more than the same jokes even, are two simple words: “yes”, and “chef”.
Being able to say these two words potentially hundreds of times a day (definitely hundreds if the day involves a long brunch shift) is a necessity. You can’t get fed up of it, or even need to think about it. You just need to do it. Like reflex. Like breathing.
This is where the trouble began for me at the start of my cooking career.
Saying that simple phrase, the required two syllable, one-two punch “yes, chef” felt like a lie. It felt like I was taking the piss.
I was 29, making a career change from office drone to cook. The only experience of chef life I had was from the hours of Gordon Ramsey (see above) and Marco Pierre White documentaries I’d watched as a teenager. God, even Rick Stein’s Seafood Odyssey showed me well enough how often cooks shouted “yes, chef” to each other.
But when I first walked into a professional kitchen, on some level, I just couldn’t believe that real world kitchens actually worked this way. It all seemed too much like a cliché.
When I first uttered those two words, I did so with all the vigour of a day old soufflé.
I felt like a 10 year old version of myself again. The same 10 year old who once returned home from a weekend in Newcastle and decided to affect a Geordie accent for some reason. Before, that is, my school friends started teasing me for it.
I felt ridiculous then. A silly little fraud.
Years later and I regret only one thing about my brief life as a line cook.
It’s regret for thinking of myself as a fraud for as long as I did.
I associate, rightly or wrongly, the birth of my son, Sam, with the end of my cooking career, in time. That other links exist, on other levels, between these two affairs, is not impossible. I have enough trouble as it is in trying to say what I think I know.
In the years that followed, as Sam grew from a whiny, fleshy lump that expelled only endless explosions of shit, into a human that expelled words of varying sense as well, I was reminded once again of how I felt in my early cooking days.
Because to say “yes, chef” without some deeply-set, unnamable hesitation would have meant believing I really was a capable chef as well.
And to answer “yes, Sam” without some deeply-set, unnamable hesitation when he called me Daddy would have meant believing I really was a capable father as well.
I learned pretty quickly that I needed to get over myself and shout “yes, chef” with the same enthusiasm as everyone else. I did feel silly. I felt like I hadn’t earned it somehow. But I learned to ignore my feelings and, after enough repetition, I even got used to it. It just became another word.
Eventually, once I moved to Stockholm, “yes, chef” turned into “ja, tack”.
Maybe that made it easier for me. The distance of another language.
But it wasn’t for some years that I gave myself permission to think of myself as anything other than the worst line cook in the world. Or at least the worst in the little corner of Europe I had found myself in.
I was working at a popular Stockholm restaurant located on an island to the west of the city centre. It was beautiful. Swans and ducks congregated at the waterfront every day in the summer. And, come autumn, the horizon beyond the water gave the perfect view of the sunset before evening service.
And it was always busy. And the work was hard. For me, impossibly hard.
I was a few years into my chef life by this point and all the progress I’d thought I’d made felt meaningless again.
I could never prep the industrial size quantity of mashed potato in time for lunch. I was always needing orders to be repeated when the more complicated al la carte menu was being served in the evenings. And, one particularly bad day, a sous chef even asked me if I’d cut the chives that morning using a blunt bread knife.
I’d used a 500 Euro Gyuto chef’s knife hand made in Japan.
The more I stressed about it, the harder I worked and obsessed over the tasks at hand, the worse I seemed to do.
The head chef was a bald, mountain of a man that looked like he'd either spent time in the military or styled himself on someone who had. A lifetime of heavy whisking had rendered his right forearm double the size of his left.
He certainly didn’t seem to have much time for me or my pitiful forearms.
After a few months on the job, he took me into the office and said he didn’t think it was working out. The summer break was a month away. He suggested we part ways at that point.
It didn’t surprise me of course. I knew it wasn’t working out. What surprised me was his telling me it was obvious to him how little I cared about the job. How little effort I was putting in. That I always had my head down and it was clear I had no interest in being there.
He had no idea about how much I really did care. How I was up at nights wondering how I could get a bit faster. How I might remember orders better or come up with some kind of system that might help. It was fascinating (read heartbreaking) how my frustration was interpreted as a lack of interest.
I’d never been so aware of how little worry and insecurity and anxiety was helping me than that moment in Military Chef’s little office.
I’d failed. Good and proper. And so I promised myself then that I’d enjoy that last month. I’d make stupid jokes. I’d sing and dance during prep time and whatever the hell else I needed to do to get through the day.
Not only would I not listen to what Military Chef thought of me, I’d try to stop listening to what I thought of myself as well.
This carefree confidence might not have been genuine at first, but I’d repeat the jokes and the songs in the hope that eventually, if I focused less on the fears that had been holding me back, stopped trying so hard, and just lived more in the moment, the confidence might stick.
A month later that same chef told me I’d become a different person since our chat and he asked me to stay.
He’d always been something of an arse so it felt good to turn him down.
There is a small church on the other side of the street from where I live today. It’s a modern thing, not a pretty old church or anything like that. Something from the nineties, probably.
But come early spring, as the sun slowly sets behind it, the light falls at such an angle that our small home is filled with glaring rays of gold.
I always look forward to spring to see that light again.
I remember once, it’s years ago now unbelievably, my son Sam running into the living room. I remember him shielding his face from the bright reflection on the hardwood floor. I closed the blinds for him. Black lines ran along the floor.
To be with Sam, to be playing with him, to be sat with him, even to be in front of the television with him, I remember a time I felt intimidated by it. Not always, only sometimes. Like the light of a particular time of year burning at a new angle through the window. I became intimidated by the responsibility of it all. Of being his father.
I know I am not the best father in the world. I know I don’t use every bit of energy I could on him. I worry the time in front of the television is too long, and the amount of time in the bath is too short.
And there is so much to worry about besides these tiny things. And one of the things I once worried about was change.
Being a father, with a son so young, is to see something new every day and moment you are with them. Being a father to a son so young is to fall in love afresh everyday. Everyday there is something this tiny being has learned to do or started to do differently.
When I wake, I see him for the first time and my eyes are changed. My love for him is changed with it. I remember a time when I feared the day this love would stay the same two days running. To become ordinary, repetitive even.
Sam runs into the room, he shields his eyes from the light, but I know now I have all I need to love him and to know him.
All it takes is for me to be here for him, in this moment, today and every today.
What matters is the repetition of things, I think. Or at least repeating things the right way.
Repeating something is often an act that keeps one foot in the past and one in the present. Maybe that’s why chefs can repeat the same jokes over and over again. Though the days are long days, the work painful, the same jokes help us remember when we laughed out loud the first time.
But to repeat something the right way is to give up on the past and to think only of being fully present now, in every new day and moment, toward an authentic future.
Always being ready to try again, fail again, and fail better.1
Otherwise, what you do in the present can only ever end up a watered-down approximation of something past. Something not authentically you. Something, for use of a better word, fraudulent.
For a long time I questioned who I thought I was, pretending to play at a chef.
Then I stopped listening to myself, stopped trying so hard, and started simply enjoying my cooking in the moment while doing my bit to make the people around me enjoy the time we shared in the kitchen as well.
Little did I know, chefs don’t really care too much if their colleagues are the fastest in the world, can remember order tickets perfectly every time, or are even able to chop chives to microscopic accuracy. What they really want is someone fun to work alongside, someone who cares, and, maybe, someone who can repeat the same private jokes day after day after day.
For a long time I questioned who I was, calling myself a father.
But somehow I learned to stop listening to myself…
If you know, you know.
How I learned to say "yes, chef"
Man, thank you for sharing this one again. I fell in love with working in kitchen and later realized the insanity of repitition. The definition of insanity Einstein claims is repeating the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
I too became a father, but this repitition is beautiful. It’s different and a beautiful thing to see. I also felt intimidated of being a father and the daunting thought of giving my daughter the best I can give, and then some.. So far she can’t speak, but I give her a strong and hearty “Yes chef!” Everytime I cook for her. It’s impossible to imagine being a father, or mother until you are one, isn’t it?
Thank you Will, this one had me rockin on my boat of emotions, I really enjoyed it and it brought me back! Phew! You are good! ✍️ 💫
I missed this post first time around, so glad you reposted, Wil. Your love for your son and description of fatherhood is so touching. And you nailed it about the truth of the workplace -- people want to work with people who make it fun and who care. Cheeky ifykyk! We are all born mad...:)